I was seeing this guy regularly for ~3 months just for a little fun. We'd meet up once or twice a week depending on our schedules. But after half a year, it has really lost its charm. For the last couple of months we see each other once or twice a month, and always on his terms. I've told him on two occasions that he shouldn't text me anymore and I am not interested in sex with him anymore, but he will just wait a week and text again. He doesn't want a relationship, but won't let me go. How do I get him to stop without insulting him?
I've told him on two occasions that he shouldn't text me anymore and I am not interested in sex with him anymore, but he will just wait a week and text again. He doesn't want a relationship, but won't let me go.
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You've already told him. You don't have to wait for him to "let you go"--you can let him go. Just because he texts you doesn't mean you have to respond and then go sleep with him. It's not wrong to not respond if you've already made it clear you're not interested in continuing. I presume that because you want a relationship you find it hard to stop, but you can't use sex as a tool to convince someone to want a relationship.
People always ignore the avoidance topic.
If you made it clear to him where the words sheight , not going to work out. Or I don't want to were used, and he keeps texting just stop responding.
If you really want call your cell phone carrier and ask them to block his phone number.
Eventually he will stop to.
If he escalates, this is exactly why we have restraining orders.
"These things have an experation you know. 6 months or until someone's feelings get hurt"
Adam on Girls.
I don't know, I have a FWB situation myself that while I am currently pretty happy with, know that at some point it will have to end. I'd recommend giving him one final "Ok, we're done talk", and then stick to your convictions. Just explain that you had fun, but your ready to move on and if he won't allow that then you will have to start getting mean about it. You gotta be firm with these sort of things. The already losely defined rules that started the FWB situation, make it easier to break them...
Me, I'd probably lie my way out.
"I've sort of started seeing someone, so it's not fair to them to keep doing this."
If you've already directly told him that you don't want to have sex with him anymore, and he's still bugging you about it, you've said all you need to say. Next would probably be block his phone number or something.
Quick clarification: do you not want to be FWB now because you want to be in a relationship with him? Or just be done with him altogether?
More like next thing would be to not go back and sleep with him as soon as he calls. Why would he stop calling if she continues to do that?
If you say you want to end it, just fucking end it.
I'm just not thrilled with the sex anymore with him and I guess that was the whole point of the relationship. If he did want to take the relationship further then that would change everything. But we discussed the terms at the beginning and in Feb and he said that he was not interested in anything more than FWB, so I'd rather just be done.
You have already told him directly so really there isn't any insult to give. If he feels insulted that's his own problem. Continue to ignore his texts. It's not like you haven't told him why so don't worry about seeming shitty. You have a right to end it if you want. Both partners have that option.
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Why are you worried about insulting him? He's not respecting you - you've told him it's done, he keeps ignoring that and texting you. His disrespect warrants a little insult.
If you want to stay friends with this guy, but without the sex, you need a "cooling off" period. If you simply must explain things to him once again, tell him you'd like to be friends w/o benefits, but if he can't respect that, he's going to be downgraded to "someone asshole I used to fuck."